An extensive family, social and medical history compiled by the birth mother and, if available, a similar document from the biological father. Specific medical records on both the birth mother and the child also normally are secured including OB/GYN records and labor and delivery records from the hospital.
Your birth mother letter and family profile. The birth parents may also ask additional questions which will be answered with your approval. It is not uncommon, for example, for a birth mother to want to know the first name you select for the baby.
Standard tests for the birth mother include: HIV; drug screening; hepatitis; and all the normal OB/GYN tests. Sonograms also routinely are done, but other testing, such as amniocentesis, is not done unless medical indicated. You also may request additional testing and daily advances in modern medicine may suggest certain other pregnancy-specific testing. Best to stay up to date on all the medical advances through your own research or in consultation with your adoption professional or other resource in the medical field.
Where indicated, HIV, drug screen, hepatitis and thyroid tests. If you request others, these can almost always be obtained.
There are no specific, etched-in-stone parameters for this contact. Normally, it is whatever that is agreed to between you and the birth mother and/or between you and any biological father. Common place, however, are pre-birth telephone contacts and/or pre-birth letter exchanges, including e-mail; obviously, face-to-face contact is encouraged and, if not done pre-birth, normally takes place at the hospital in the run-up to placement. While these contacts almost always occur pre-birth and/or during the hospital period, there are birth mothers, along with the occasional birth father, who
You should focus on being yourselves, letting the birth parents get to know you and establishing a comfort level. You want the birth parents to have concern and empathy for your situation, and for you to understand theirs. You should not be interrogative, ask for personal or confidential information or question medical history. If you have a question in this regard, let your adoption professional handle it
Counseling is strongly advocated for the birth mother. Some birth mothers are not willing to attend counseling and, of course, cannot be forced to do so.
Given the dizzying and daily advancements in technology, communication these days nearly is instantaneous provided, of course, all involved parties, and primarily the birth mother, utilize the technology. Depending on the specific relationship you and the birth mother may establish pre-birth, it may be you who is alerted directly by the birth mother that she, in fact, is at the hospital or on her way to the hospital. Otherwise, your adoption professional will contact you, the timing of which could be critical, especially if the birth mother wants you present for the delivery.
The reality is that very few birth mothers have the resources to re-pay prospective adoptive parents, but one recourse is to file a lawsuit to recover these living expenses. There also is the tax “write off” more fully outlined below.
Under Florida law, generally, the birth mother may not sign her Consent to Adoption until forty-eight (48) hours after the baby is born; however, Florida law makes one (1) exception for a birth mother to sign the consent to adoption earlier than 48 hours. If the birth mother has been notified in writing, either in her patient chart or medical discharge release paperwork, that she is medically discharged, the birth mother then may sign her consent to Adoption on her discharge date and need not wait the forty-eight (48) hours. With a c-section, the birth mother’s signing of the consent to a